What I Learned After the Wedding (and Honeymoon)

DSCN1221 We have survived the wedding — the paring down of the guest list, the invitation making, the arguing over registry items — and I think we still actually like (ok, love) each other. If you didn’t know, weddings can be stressful; it’s surprising that more people don’t get divorced before they even get married… But despite all of it, and because of some of it (ahem, the invitations totally set the mood for the event), we had the most beautiful wedding day. It’s unreal how fast the day goes. I know, everyone says that. But I spent the whole next day just trying to memorize every detail! A few things I learned from my wedding: • Get all of your addresses the first time around. We hand delivered a good amount of our save the dates. We saved on postage, but paid for it later when we were scrambling to get invitations out the door. • If you have any plans of DIY-ing your invites, order early. Like, six months early. Running into a deadline with invitations isn’t fun for anyone, especially when you have your future spouse complaining about how many circles he has had to punch (it was such hard work!). Needless to say we had a few choice words for each other during the process. • Have a close friend or relative take pictures. Because I didn’t want to start pictures at noon, I avoided doing a million formals, but after it was all said and done I realized I didn’t get a picture with my mom or my siblings. I also didn’t have any to show off immediately after the wedding! • I never say no to cute shoes, but guess how many people actually saw mine? Three. Well, eleven, if you count my bridal party, mom, and Jay. If you are going to buy a pricey pair, make sure you can wear them again. (I have high hopes that my gold ones will some day be seen again.) • Take home your flowers. You pay all that money for those pretty little things, don’t let them go to waste. Bring ice cream buckets, mason jars, plastic cups — whatever — and then take them home and share them with anyone that helped make your big day special. (We had a lot of help.) • Don’t OD on Pinterest. There are obviously a million and one cute ideas out there, but you have to pick what’s right for you. It’s about personalizing your day, not copying everyone else’s. • Spend the money on the dress. Even though I had a few guilt stricken moments before the wedding day, I didn’t feel an ounce of guilt once I put the thing on. (On a side note, don’t be worried about not feeling “the one” immediately. I probably tried on 60 dresses before I could confidently make a decision.) • Confirm things with your vendors. This is the last thing I wanted to do before the wedding, but wish I would have. We ended up with the wrong wines, miscommunications on bartenders and no champagne at the head table (unthinkable!). Not that any of these things took away from our day, but it’s stuff that could have been avoided. A few photos and comments from the honeymoon:

The ocean was pretty. I liked looking at it more than I liked being in it.

The ocean was pretty. I liked looking at it more than I liked being in it.

Doesn't get much better than this...

Doesn’t get much better than this…

It's fun to get dressed up for dinner, eat like a queen and drink as much as you want. (Which, let's face it, isn't that much for me.)

It’s fun to get dressed up for dinner, eat like a queen and drink as much as you want. (Which, let’s face it, isn’t that much for me.)

Can't complain about the view from the work out room. Hey-o!

Can’t complain about the view from the work out room. Hey-o!

Our paradise.

Our paradise.

Check out Jay's sunburn... and heat rash... hah, who needs to live in a bubble now?!

Check out Jay’s sunburn… and heat rash… hah, who needs to live in a bubble now?!

• I remembered why I don’t do buffets: I never feel like I am getting my money’s worth if I only get one plate. Of course I hate myself after I’ve had two. Ugh, it’s so miserable to over eat (except on Thanksgiving and Christmas, then it’s totally worth it). • In other countries Coke is made with real sugar and it’s soooo much better. After four days I broke down and opened up the mini bar. Bad idea. One Coke turned me into a bloated farting machine. I scored super sexy wife points for that. Not. • I had diarrhea the first day, constipation the last day. My body was basically saying, “You ‘F’ with me, I ‘F’ with you.” I got the message, loud and clear… plus another extra couple sexy wife points. • Lipliner and leathered skin have never, ever, EVER looked good on anyone. I hope the lady in the bedazzled Punta Cana skirt will figure that out some day. • I will never be able to pull off the “sexy, I just came out of the pool look”. How do those Bond girls do it? I just look like wet rat. With all these not-so-sexy points, you’re probably wondering what Jay was thinking. Too bad for him we already got the marriage license! Hah 🙂